In HIS Presence


Read: Proverbs 5:1-23

Meditation verse:

“May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth… may her breasts satisfy you always” (Proverbs 5:18-19).

A negative self-image can also diminish sexual fulfilment in marriage. Some women pile on excess weight after having children and complain that their spouses no longer find them sexually appealing. Others begin to feel selfconscious about their bodies. With all these factors, many couples find themselves struggling to keep the sexual passion and desire alive in their relationships. Research on long term relationships and sex show that as many as 15% of married couples have not had sex in the last six months to a year. Married couples in a sexless marriage are more likely to consider divorce than couples who argue constantly but remain sexually active. Sex is not just important for its sake, it is important for the marriage relationship, as it can make or break it.

If you and your spouse are struggling with dwindling sexual desires or a loss of sexual activity, if your sex life is currently boring, unsatisfactory, or devoid of passion, you need to know that this is not God’s desire for you. Faithfulness in marriage need not be boring, dull, or lifeless. The first and most important step in dealing with this is to acknowledge that a problem does exist. Communication is important. You and your spouse need to come together in an atmosphere of honesty and love to uncover the underlying factor(s). Discussing your sex life builds up your excitement and anticipation around it. Unfortunately, most Christian couples consider such discussions carnal and refrain from having them. How you deal with the issue depends on what the underlying factors are.

Nurturing your marriage is important, so take time to nurture it. When you put in the time and effort needed to make your marriage great, you will be the better for it. Sexual relationship in a marriage is dynamic and constantly changing, so stay in touch with the needs of your spouse. When you are committed to this, your sex life will remain passionate and fulfilling irrespective of how long you have been married.

IN HIS PRESENCE is written by Oke Chinye.
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