In HIS Presence


Read: Proverbs 5:1-23

Meditation verse:

“The husband should fulfil his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfil her husband’s needs” (1 Corinthians 7:3, NLT).

Sex was created by God as an expression of love between a husband and a wife: to provide physical, emotional as well as spiritual bonding. “Therefore, a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24). Your sexual experience in marriage enhances your wellbeing. Sex is also a key cause of marital strife. Since God created sex, He knows how destructive it can be if used in the wrong context, hence He set very specific boundaries for it. It must be within a marriage. “Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body, but he that commits fornication sins against his own body” (1 Corinthians 6:18).

Today’s bible reading is an allegory of faithfulness in marriage. Couples are enjoined to drink water from their own cistern and never allow their springs to overflow unto the streets. Sex is likened to a spring or river, which if contained within the banks (marriage) will lead to enjoyment and satisfaction. If the spring exceeds the banks and spills unto the streets, great devastation can occur. Keep your marriage bed pure and stay faithful to your spouse. God’s purpose for marriage is for a husband and wife to always enjoy a sexually fulfilling relationship regardless of how long they have been married.

Maintaining a healthy and fulfilling sex life in a marriage requires a conscious effort on the part of both parties. According to Psychologist and marriage counsellor, Dr Richard Nicastro, sex is not always simple and straightforward. A whole range of factors can negate the experience of sexual fulfilment in a marriage. An underlying physical or medical condition, or the side effects of prescription drugs can impact a man’s libido. The demands of child rearing, juggling work and housekeeping can wear a woman down and cause sex to drop to the bottom of her list. Emotional issues such as unresolved anger, unforgiveness, or resentment can result in a total loss of sexual desire. Harbouring a grudge is like cancer, it will eat deep into the fabric of your soul. It will eventually destroy every element of your marriage and not just your sexual relationship, because when you feel deeply hurt by your spouse, it is impossible to give yourself wholly to them.

IN HIS PRESENCE is written by Oke Chinye.
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